#94: When you want something, ask for it. If someone can’t give it to you, do it yourself.
04 Aug 2011 Leave a Comment
in The Self
These two lessons go hand in hand in life. There is nothing you need in life that you can’t do for yourself. If you want to be a millionaire, you need to ask for it. If no one is willing to give it to you, find out how to do it yourself. If you want the dishes done, or a PhD, never believe that anyone else on earth owes this to you. I think there are times you can ask someone else to do things you need done and if the time and intent is right, you should get that help. But if it isn’t right you may not need the help or you may feel more satisfaction completing whatever it is on your own.
It is hard to watch those around you be given things they did no work for and that’s the worst example of asking for something. Everyone says you need to feel a sense of accomplishment for what you’re give, but this is hard to keep in perspective when your best friend is being given a house their parents bought for them or someone wins the lottery. But the fact remains that nothing good comes without hard work. Even millionaires made huge efforts to reach their goals with insurmountable odds at times.
When you do accomplish things, you are also given the gift of respect from others. There are many successful and rich people whom no one respects and whose lives are empty of purpose. Getting what you want is an end goal, but having purpose and drive in life is the journey that can’t be given to you by anyone else.
Always believe you deserve what you want. With this in mind, work hard for the things that are important and don’t begrudge those who have everything given to them. Know that you will always have many gifts given to you by the simple fact you learned something, proved your self worth and had the joy of the end result, obtaining what you wanted in the beginning.
